First the book–then the movie. There was so much interest in our recent post Choose Not to Give Advice that we decided to link to the video in which Kate gives advice about giving advice.
Thanks to Literacy Nova Scotia for making this video at a practitioner training workshop in 2012.
Jeannie was a student in my adult literacy class who missed many days of class in the first month of term. So I began THE CONVERSATION.
Me: I like having you in class. You work hard, you have lots of interesting things to say, and that makes the class more interesting for me and everybody else.
Jeannie: Yeah, I like this class, and the work is not too hard for me.
Me: I think you can do well here, and go on to the next level.
Jeannie: I hope so.
Me: But I’m worried about your attendance. When you miss so much class, sometimes you don’t know where we are, or what we are working on. It’s hard for me to help you catch up, even though I know you can do the work. Continue reading
Here’s another riff on Flip Your Experience, another strategy for working Across Difference.
A women’s centre in Ontario wrote to consult about a problem they were having dealing with a woman who was disruptive. The woman was a trans woman. This was my reply.
Thanks for your post about how to address the situation of a disruptive woman who is trans.
A challenge indeed. Continue reading
Another riff on our strategy for working across difference: Flip Your Experience.
Inspiring talk by Ash Beckham at TEDx Boulder. “I think we all have closets. Your closet may be telling someone that you love her for the first time, or telling someone you’re pregnant, or telling someone you have cancer, or any of the other hard conversations we have throughout our lives. All a closet is, is a hard conversation. And although our topics may vary tremendously, the experience of being in, and coming out the closet, is universal. It is scary, and we hate it, and it needs to be done.”
She says that a closet is just a hard conversation. And that conversations are just hard–no comparing hard, harder or hardest. She uses her own experience of coming out to begin to imagine the experience of others who are at a Dis/Advantage.
Thanks to Jenny for the link.
A riff on our strategy for working across difference, Flip your experience.
Toronto School Board has decided that the rainbow flag can continue to fly at Stephen Lewis School, in spite of an on-line petition, to have it removed. (Story here)
A Toronto man complained because flying the rainbow flag is a “form of propaganda which creates an unwelcoming environment for straight individuals … promotes homosexuality and gives these individuals unfair and special rights.”
We wish that the 374 people who signed the petition would have taken a moment to flip their own experiences of feeling unsafe and unwelcome somewhere in their own lives where they are at a Dis/Advantage. If they had flipped their experience, connected with the emotions they felt at those moments of Dis/Advantage, they might have joined the Gay-Straight Alliance which flew the flag in the first place.
Danny Arkadyev wrote on the petition website that he was one of the people who helped establish the flag at Stephen Lewis and “the intention was not to declare a queer/trans takeover and embellish the school in propaganda, but to let all students know that this school is a safe space and everyone is welcomed, including the people who put up this petition.”
“Special rights” are just rights.
He was a big man, wearing a muscle shirt with old-style tattoos running up and down both arms. He came out of the conference room wiping his eyes and reaching for his cigarettes. “God, I hate that crying,” he said to me, a relative stranger enjoying the summer evening. “But I guess you have to do it,” he added with a rueful grin.
I was at a conference of adult literacy students, and in the evenings students would gather in small groups to share stories about being hardly able to read in a society where everyone takes literacy for granted. Stories of secrecy and shame—a grandmother whose husband was the only person in the world who knew she couldn’t read, who had kept the secret for thirty-five years from her four children and her grandchildren, from her bosses and friends at work, from neighbours and people in her church, from storekeepers and bus drivers. Stories of loss Continue reading
A video riff on “Reverse Racism Isn’t.”
Racism exists when the powerful in a society use their power to keep some groups in a position of disadvantage or oppression. Where there is no power, there can be no racism.
If you’re trying to figure out where the power is in a situation, try flipping the roles and see whether the result looks ridiculous.
“Bullying a White Co-Worker” is a stunning video that makes this important point about “reverse racism.” It is from Legally Brown, from the Australian comedy series “Flip World,” in which Dis/Advantage roles are reversed. (Click the title to view the video.)